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There had been a widespread model of the system of life I observed, strongly believed, experienced, and found to be convincing.
Having found a great liking towards books since my childhood, I kept reading a lot of novels, self-help books, fiction, and philosophies. Though most of the content from all the genres was influencing me, one particular argument had a great impact on me.
“No one in this world is pure and perfect. If you avoid people for their mistakes, you will be alone. So judge less and love more”
“Nobody is perfect and nobody deserves to be perfect. Don’t pretend to be someone you are not. You should be good at being you, being real.”
“Judge me when you are perfect”
“You were born to be real not to be perfect”
And so on…
This somehow also translated to me that everyone else in the world should also understand and adopt this philosophy and treat me for being flawed, the so-called real me and I can surely be imperfect and make as many mistakes as possible, I need not be alone, people should not judge me and whoever judges me are morons.
This was extremely comforting for me due to the fact that I can do whatever I want in my calculated and falsely created consciousness. Anything that didn’t work for me is fine because I am being real and nobody has the authority to judge me. Ultimately nobody is perfect and pure.
I have had read at least 30+ Novels and fiction storybooks that endorses this idea. Due to the constant revision of this one particular principle, I was becoming so perfect in justifying not being perfect. Life was a la-la land. All good. Love and happiness all around.
I consumed every possible bit of information the world and Google had to offer. I built a strong perspective of looking at things and people in the same way as the statements made above.
I felt I was being loved for whoever I am. I felt I was being liked for being flawed, being imperfect, being crazy, and sometimes even ridiculous. After all, nobody is pure and perfect you know!
But in this process, I did become so blind to the profound truths of life and the way the universe operates.
I enjoyed all the beautiful characteristics such as the road rage while driving (because the RTO officers are corrupt), shouting at the wrongdoers (because it gave an instant heroic high), carelessness in most of the things I utter, quality of the books I read and the cinemas I watched, celebrating mediocrity, excuses for everything that didn’t work because I AM NOT PERFECT. But for the first time, I encountered someone who had exactly the opposite aforesaid characteristics!
This one person whom I met was fitting to this “Nobody is perfect” frame like anyone else I had in my circle. Nevertheless, the true colors and layers of that person started peeling off as the days passed. I found that someone whom I know is perfect in many aspects. That itself was an earth-shattering realization for me.
In the world of craving for name, fame, and money this person was extremely grounded and knew the real name and fame requirement which was self-approval for pure thoughts and progressive decisions. No external obligations at all. Being social was something I believed to be too mandatory with the insecurity of being lost or an odd man. But here in this person’s case, social living is only a good to have feature and accepted only if it is in line with the person’s ethics, principles, and growth. No questions asked and no answers given!
It started becoming clear to me that there is a possibility to be pure and perfect. I understand that everything is looked at from the relative angle and not from the absolute grounds. But I frankly witnessed absolute purity and perfection in most of the attributes in this person.
Our society has been rewarding mostly the people who are heroic than being true leaders. In most of the times, have we seen an Indian Cinema in which a person who is Non-violent, interested in studies, scores well in the exams, not into a romantic relationship, minding his own business, converses with a soft tone, serving the society and the country in a bigger perspective portrayed as the Protagonist (some of the Dr. Rajkumar movies are exceptions)? It is always that the hero will be from the last bench and disinterested in studies, fails in the exams, falls into a romantic relationship and fights for making it to be one and only lifetime success, involves in almost every issue in his place and resolves it as if he is the only person who can do it, must and should deliver punch dialogues.
Even more, we have been propagating in such terms that a person who is a first rank holder or a gold medalist in studies is always deprived of social consciousness and common sense. They are termed bookworms. They are looked at with pity and considered as non-charm. How can someone with a deep interest in studies and hunger for knowledge necessarily be socially unconscious and has no common sense? And bookworm is a positive title than being used to ridicule.
This person is having such strong character where every move made would be surely well thought, purified, weighed, and delivered. There is perfection. There is purity. No external approval sought, no complications. Truth all the time. Respectful outlook for everything and everyone. Ignoring the unwanted, unnecessary, and irrelevant. A deep strive for doing the best and strong faith in the existential power. I found it to be too attractive. I found it to be too overwhelming and a classy way of leading life. An exception occurred!
I had to shift from doing things that are easy to do things that are right!
I met the person whom I needed to. The best teacher and the beautiful Angel of my life, the person is my wife 😊
